Talita Kalloe about motherhood in 2022

Talita Kalloe , mother of Malía (3) and Ava (1) and runs the online platform Soul Stores , about conscious shopping and a sustainable lifestyle. Her view of motherhood inspires us immensely, so we are happy to share her story with you.

Can you describe what it means to you to be a mother?

“I see it as my job as a mother to guide our children in life. Especially in the turbulent times we live in. Malía was born just before the pandemic, Ava in the middle of the pandemic. As a mother, I personally also went through a transformation in which I made a big leap in my personal development and gained insight into what I have to give. A collective problem like the pandemic made me realize that today's world, with all the pressing issues that already exist, is under constant pressure. I now see more clearly than ever how important it is that you consciously raise your children. And that we teach them to stand firm enough to bear the changes in the world in the future. Where I used to do everything for a better world, I now do this for a better world for my children.”

What was it like when you were pregnant with Malia?

“I had a very good pregnancy, apart from some inconveniences. I also noticed during pregnancy that I became much chiller. I didn't worry so much anymore, got a kind of bullshit filter and was able to prioritize very easily. I found that very refreshing. I don't think I've ever felt more feminine and beautiful than during my pregnancies.”

How did your first daughter Malia feel once she was born?

“Tim and I looked at each other on the third day of maternity and said to each other 'shit just got real'. We can't hook up anymore. From now on we are responsible for a human life and everything we do counts. Every choice we make. That felt overwhelming and the infamous maternity tears came for both of us that day. I had not expected to experience that deeper layer of feeling beforehand. I now see it as a privilege that I was able to feel this.

I did underestimate the postpartum period. I didn't take care of myself well enough and was blurry in my head. The urge to make conscious, sustainable choices only got stronger with the arrival of our daughter. But I was also in two minds. For example, I really wanted to use washable diapers but couldn't take the extra effort at that stage. I had a sense of guilt towards the world.

This comes from a sense of responsibility that is very deep within me. I've always had that. As an influencer you feel that you have to set a good example. But intrinsically I also know that the most sustainable choice is one that is feasible - also for the long term. Eventually we started using the washable diapers part-time together with sustainable disposable diapers. It was a good example for me that there is also a middle ground, and that every effort in the right direction is one. It remains a search for balance.”


What would you like to pass on to other women who are making the transition to motherhood?

“ I would like to invite every mother who feels she is coming to take a deep look at herself - also the shadow sides. This may sound strange in a period when so much is already coming your way, but it is precisely in the great transformation to motherhood that those sides can reveal themselves. The best thing you can give yourself is to work with those sides of yourself. Whether you start with a simple yoga and meditation routine or in a complete shadow journey. By looking at yourself and healing what blocks you in parenting you can mean something much bigger. Not only for yourself, but also for your children. ”

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